Is your toddler being defiant and throwing those temper tantrums? Do you find it consistently difficult to make your toddler listen to you? Are you on the verge of losing your cool?
If you are frantically nodding yes to the above questions, we are here to help! Read on to find how you can deal with your defiant toddler in a smart and caring way.
How To Deal With A Defiant Toddler?
Here are some smart and effective tips that will help you deal with your defiant toddler:
1. Show That You Understand:
One of the first mistakes you might make as a parent is to go against your toddler’s wishes, which is prone to make the situation more difficult.
Instead of obviously going against your toddler’s wish, try and show that you do understand his predicament.
Tell your toddler that you can understand that playing till late is so much fun, but also emphasize the need to sleep. Saying something simple like ‘Yes baby, I know it’s so much fun to play, but let’s go to bed now and listen
Do not give in to the need to shout or show your anger. Be patient yet firm. This is how to deal with a defiant toddler.
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2. Keep Affirming The Right Behavior:
Your toddler has to be told over and over again about his unacceptable behavior.
Instead of nagging, try and affirm the right way to behave well without losing your cool.
If your toddler is throwing his toys at you instead of picking them up, tell him ‘we play with our toys, we don’t throw them.’ If your toddler wants to lie down on the floor and scream, tell him gently but firmly that behavior like this is not acceptable.
Make sure you always tell your toddler how you want him to behave instead of just telling him not to behave a certain way.This is one way on how to handle a defiant toddler. Dealing with a defiant toddler is tough task but you can do it.
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3. Set Those Limits:
Setting limits for your toddler will make it easier for your little one to follow rules.
Make sure your toddler knows what he is allowed to do and what is completely off limits.
Always give clear instructions that are easier for your toddler to understand. ‘If you don’t like this vegetable, eat it up fast and then have the juice.’ ‘If you are angry with your brother, tell him, you cannot hit him.’
Your toddler may not always practice what you teach, but as a parent you have to keep reminding him of an acceptable code of conduct.
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4. Know When To Let It Be:
No one likes to hear a ‘no’ all the time, especially your enthusiastic and independent toddler.
Learn when you need to put your foot down and when it is okay to let go.
Let your toddler sometimes indulge, unless you fear it can turn into a regular habit. Make sure you tell your toddler that you are allowing it as a special fun treat.
Saying things like ‘okay, let us play some extra time today as a special treat’ will tell your toddler that you are allowing the behavior only for ‘today’ and not for every day. Allowing your toddler sometimes to eat without any grown up assistance or getting ready without your help will make him feel independent and responsible. You can ask him to follow the routine at other times.
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