Are you suddenly witnessing a change in your child’s attitude towards you? Do you feel that your little darling, who until recently was waiting on your every word, has suddenly turned a new person who just won’t listen? Are you concerned that this could be a warning sign of your child’s rebellion against you? If you are facing any of the above situations and would like to try some parenting tips that strengthen the bond you share with your child and can make her listen to you again, keep reading!
4 Simple Tips On How To Make Your Child Listen To You:
Remember that as a thumb rule, whatever you want your child to do, you should lead by example. Your child will always pick up the first signs and the first lessons from you. Whatever you do, or don’t, will affect your child in more ways than one. If you want your child to listen to you, it is important that you practice what you preach.
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Here are four tips that will help you know how
1. Start Listening To Your Child:
Getting kids to listen is a challenging task. Before you want your child to listen to you, take the lead and make it a point that you develop the skills of a good listener.
- Make sure you give your child your full attention. If she comes up to you and wants to talk about something, however mundane, stop whatever you are doing and listen carefully.
- Make proper eye contact to show her that you are listening to everything that she is saying.
- Stay quiet and let her vent it out first. Sometimes, it is fine just to listen to your child instead of interrupting and advising her.
- Avoid giving monosyllabic answers as she may perceive them to be signs of your disinterest. Understand what she is saying and reply accordingly. Sometimes, a simple ‘okay’ or ‘hmm’ will do while sometimes she may be looking at you for a proper answer that may involve a detailed explanation.
- Help your child to share her emotions and experiences better by encouraging her to talk to you whenever she wants. When she sees you are attentive, she will communicate openly and bond better with you.
- Mind your tone while talking to your child. It is not just important to say the right thing, but it is also important to say it in the right way. If you want your child to listen to you, it is important first to understand how you should be communicating with her.
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2. Pay Attention Towards Your Body Language:
Along with your complete attention and the tone of your voice, your body language is also important in helping your child learn to listen.
- Remember that different situations and different conversations will require a different body language. Whenever you are communicating with your child, make sure you do not shout at her from another room.
- Eye contact is crucial, so get down to your child’s height and listen to what she is saying, or tell her what you have to say.
- Whatever instructions you give your child, make sure you keep it very clear and simple. Do not tell your child to finish her dinner, ready her school bag and sleep by 8 pm. Instead remind her to finish fast as her bedtime is at 8 pm. The instructions should not be confusing. Your child should understand the main task you want her to complete, which is to be in bed by 8. Once you start giving such clear instructions to your child, it will be easier for her to understand and obey you.
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3. Encourage Your Child To Cooperate And Act:
Often as a parent, you may start nagging your child or get angry when something does not go your way. Instead of ordering her, encourage her to cooperate and work together with you.
- In some cases, your child will deliberately try not to listen to you when she feels you are going to reproach her or get angry. Instead of losing your cool, try to turn the situation into one of mutual understanding and cooperation.
- Do not use an accusing tone but use one that implies facts and will encourage your child to behave better. For instance, if your child is eating a chocolate bar, and you see the wrapper on the floor. Instead of scolding her or getting angry, just quietly point towards the wrapper and ask her to throw it.
- You can use a descriptive tone while explaining to your child using short phrases why her actions are unacceptable. For instance, if your child is whining and asking for something, do not scold her for the same. Instead, tell her that when she whines, you can’t understand anything that she says. Ask her to speak in her normal voice. Your child will know that you are keen to understand what she is saying.
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4. Try To Understand What’s Causing The Problem:
Sometimes, your child may not listen to you as a means of showing her anger or sadness.
- Try to understand what your child is feeling and why she is reacting the way she is, especially if she was an obedient child earlier.
- Sometimes, your child’s display of a rebellious streak is a mere means to gain your attention and time. Certain situations like having a new sibling at home, being bullied or teased at school, being scolded by a parent, are often enough to make your child refuse to listen and demand attention instead. Address the problem. Speak to your child and find out what is wrong.
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Your child will go through various behavioral changes through the growing up years. Make sure you always remind your child about the fact that you love her unconditionally.
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