Do you and your partner belong to different races? Do you want to ensure that your child gets the best of both the cultures? Are you looking at ways that will help your child grow up to be a confident biracial child? If you can relate to the above situations, it is time for you to scroll down and give this post a read.
Having a biracial identity can have its set of pros and cons. On the one hand, your child will have a unique cultural heritage and on the other hand he may experience an identity crisis. Read on to know some simple parenting tips on raising a biracial child.
Eight Tips On How To Raise A Biracial Child:
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Here are some effective tips for raising biracial children the perfect way:
1. Let Your Child Talk About Skin Color:
As a biracial child, it is obvious that your child will notice the difference in the color of skin.
- For your child, asking questions related to the color of skin, is quite normal. You may feel it is not something to be discussed in the open, especially not in front of family or strangers. You may have a certain skin color, your partner may have another skin color, and your child may have a different skin color altogether. In such a scenario, your child is likely to get confused and ask why there is a difference in the colors of the skin when you all are members of the same family.
- Do not take offense at your child’s curiosity. Instead of asking your child to not talk about it, make sure you address the question in a very normal way. Remember that your child does not understand the concept of color, so answer as best as you can, keeping his age in mind.
- Remember that it is never too late to do the ‘race’ talk with your child. Your child will start noticing different traits even when he is just three years of age, and something as basic as skin color is often the first difference he may note. Let your child inquire about it or bring up the topic yourself. Make sure you do it in such a way that it does not seem a very serious issue. Your child should not feel that talking about race, skin color or facial features is a taboo. Instead, make sure you make it sound as normal as possible.
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2. Teach Your Child To Accept His Mixed Features:
Most biracial children inherit some features from one parent and the rest from the other, which means they have a mix of both.
- While it is not something that is not natural, it may intrigue strangers who may ask your child about his ethnicity.
- Your child may have a different kind of hair texture or style, or a certain shape of eyes, or a different skin color or a differently shaped mouth. Help your child to know the fact that all these features are good for him because it brings together the goodness of two unique cultures.
- In many instances, some people may completely disbelieve your child’s mixed racial identity. For instance, a dark skinned parent may have a child who is white, or a white parent may have a biological child who is dark skinned. Teach your child that it is possible for others to get confused, especially if they are only meeting him for the first time. Prepare your child to be strong and normal about facing such situations and not becoming upset or angry.
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3. Allow Your Child To Choose His Cultural Identity:
It is perfectly normal for your child to one day show an interest in your culture and the next day wanting to identify himself with your partner’s culture.
- Let your child explore and see the different cultural aspects firsthand.
- The best thing to teach your child is to be himself, to do what makes him feel most comfortable and happy.
- Do not make your child’s cultural preference an ego tussle between you and your partner. If your child wants to know more about your culture, talk about it and share your experiences with him. If your child wants to be more participative in your partner’s culture, make sure he is around to help.
4. Help Your Child Become Confident And Happy Being Biracial:
Your child may need more moral support to boost his confidence than other children, especially while dealing with biracial issues.
- Often strangers can be curious about your child’s mixed looks and end up asking questions that seem rude or incorrect. While you may deal with the same in a grown-up and more mature way, it could make your child awkward and confused.
- Tell your child that not all children are biracial, and that is why people can sometimes ask the questions that they do. Help your child to understand what the word biracial means and why it is such a special gift to have the richness of not one but two cultures.
- Your child may look completely different from either you or your partner, which is another normal aspect of being a biracial child. Tell your child that it is nothing to be embarrassed. Also, when someone expresses shock at your child’s revelation about what culture or racial background you and your partner are from, tell your child to not be offended. Your child should be proud of his biracial lineage and not try to hide the fact from others.
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