‘Anger is only one letter short of danger.’ This popular saying sums up the detrimental effect of anger. And if this powerful emotion teams up with teenage, its effects can be even more destructive.
If you are the parent of a teenager, anger management will be one of the biggest challenges that you may be facing. It is one thing that makes growing up during teens complicated and difficult – for both parents and the teenager.
Anger Management For Teenagers:
Understanding your teenager’s psyche and following a few tips can help you manage your teen’s anger better.
Why Does My Teenager Get So Angry?
We have all been there, haven’t we? Remember, how your parents struggled dealing with your moods and emotions during your teens? The best way to manage your teen’s anger is to understand why he gets so angry in first place.
1. Teenage – the age of metamorphosis:
Teenage is an age of physical and psychological development and hormonal changes. There is a serious metamorphosis i
- As your teen slowly flies out of your comfortable cocoon and gets more independent, he constantly faces confusion.
- The transition of getting fully independent from being fully dependent earlier creates confusion in your teenager’s brain.
- Respect the fact that your teenager is growing up and give him the space he expects and deserves.
2. Teenage Brain Develops Differently:
The two pivotal brain parts of humans develop in two different speeds during teenage years. While one part is developed fully, the other is still developing. These two parts together help them make decisions and lead life.
- Due to the different stages of development, one part functions fully while the other lags behind.
- The fully developed part holds emotions like anger, happiness, love etc. These emotions are at their lifetime peak during teens.
- The one that helps your teen understand the difference between good and bad lags behind.
- So, when your teenager gets angry, he doesn’t really know that it is bad for him and everyone around.
[ Read: Teenage Brain Development ]
Anger Management In Teens:
The key to remember is that you need to realize that anger is perfectly normal. It is a natural emotion like love and happiness and there is nothing wrong about it. Having said that, expressing it the right way and controlling is what matters the most.
How your teen expresses his anger is what makes it good or bad. Here are a few tips on how to deal with anger management in teenagers that you can keep in mind to help him manage his anger better:
1. Vent Out, Don’t Burst Out:
Help your teenager understand that venting out his anger is good, but must be done carefully.
- Bursting out is never the solution.
- Aggression must be avoided in every way. Aggression and outbursts only fuel the emotion, making it worse.
2. Anger Isn’t Power:
Most teenagers feel that anger helps them gain power and respect. They find it authoritative. This could also be because they see their elders getting angry all the time.
- Monitor the way you conduct yourself in front of your teenager. You learn what you see.
- Help him understand that it is easier to communicate anger peacefully.
- Anger is not a way of gaining control over lives. It doesn’t make anyone powerful.
- It only makes you powerless, even on your own self!
3. Managing Anger Isn’t Suppressing It:
Anger management isn’t about suppressing your anger. It is about knowing your feelings and emotions and choosing to express it (even anger) the right way.
- Never encourage your teen to suppress the anger.
- Tell him that being physically or verbally abusive is absolutely no way of expressing anger.
- The motive of being angry is to successfully send your message across.
- Use your anger to put forward your point in a constructive way.
- The idea is to get the other person see through your point.
- If your anger doesn’t do that, no one gains anything. Rather you end up losing your own peace of mind.
[ Read: Teenage Attitude ]