How To Talk To Your Daughter About Her First Period?


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Is your daughter in her teens, early teens or about to reach the teens? Are you waiting for that important phase in her life when she will have her first period? Are you wondering how to talk to her about it in an age-appropriate and practical way?

If you have doubts about when is a right time to speak to her about her first period and how you should go about it, scroll down to check our tips on what to do when your daughter gets her first period here.

How To Talk To Your Daughter About Her First Period:

As the mother to a daughter, you may wonder what the right age to start talking about menstruation is. With hormonal changes affecting girls at a young age these days, it is not a surprise that the age at which girls experience their first periods also changes.

While it was normal for girls to have their periods during their teens, there is a significant shift in the entire age game. Today, girls as young as eight or nine can get their periods. While you may want to wait

till the tween or her teens to talk to her about her first period, sometimes, it is better to plan a situation where it could begin earlier than you anticipate.

[ Read: How To Teach Your Daughter To Use A Tampon ]

Talking to your daughter about menstruation is a little tricky. She may feel awkward or embarrassed and may not want to listen to you, once she understands what you are talking about. Preparation is quite essential, and it is important that all the information she gets comes from you and not from outsiders. Stay calm, and remember to base your discussion on your daughter’s comfort level, to help her understand the changes that her body will go through.

Here are a few tips that will help you learn how to talk to your daughter about her period:

1. Begin The Talk Early And Keep It Normal:

It is important to remember that puberty could hit your daughter sooner than you expect. So, you should start talking to your daughter about her period or at least the concept of them, at an early age.

  • A good way to know when your daughter is ready for the talk is to take cues from her. Your daughter will sometimes show curiosity at the various commercials she sees that refer to sanitary pads. She may ask you about them, and why women need them. She may someday find a sanitary pad in the house and relate it to the ones she saw in the commercial, ask you about it and why you need it.
  • Once you find your daughter is curious and wants to know more about it, you can start talking to her a little about what exactly the product is. Before you discuss anything, you have to remember to keep it age-appropriate. Some children might be alright to listen to all the details at a young age. Some children may get very worried the moment they realize there is blood involved in the entire process and that they will be bleeding.
  • As a parent, you will be the better judge of how to word the conversation with your daughter.

[ Read: Ways To Handle Early Puberty ]

2. Mind The Age But Do Not Be Evasive:

While being age-appropriate in your discussion with your daughter is important, it is also important to give her facts, rather than being evasive.

  • You can skip the full details if you feel your daughter is still too young, but tell her the gist of it.
  • You can show her some of the products you use on a monthly basis and tell her that it is something that happens once in a month. Keep the conversation casual and not something that feels like a formal sit-down discussion.
  • If your daughter is at an age when she can understand the details better, talk to her about how the female body goes through a lot of changes. Tell her that once she reaches a certain age, her body will start showing signs that it is now preparing for the changes.
  • If your daughter is already a tween or teen, it is important to tell her about the exact reason for the changes that will take place. Make sure you tell her that as a growing female, her body is now preparing itself for the time when it will nurture a baby, which is a long time from now.

[ Read: Physical Changes During Puberty ]

3. Be Positive About It And Give Her The Facts:

One important thing you need to remember when you talk to your daughter about her first period is to ensure you sound positive.

  • Your daughter will already be nervous and scared about what you tell her. Your daughter will already be nervous and scared about what you tell her. She will be confused and may even think that it is unfair to deal with something so difficult and disgusting. It is fine for her to think that way, but make sure you do not support it or make an issue out of it.
  • Tell her that yes, even though it is a little difficult in the beginning, especially because it is something new for her, it will gradually get better with time.
  • Make sure you tell your daughter some of your experiences. It will help her relate to the entire process and give her assurance that it will be alright. You can tell her when you began your periods, whether you were at school or home and whether you already had a kit ready for you. It will also be a good time to prepare a first-period kit for your daughter and let her carry with her to school, in case she gets it during school hours.

[ Read: Everything About Puberty ]

4. Ask Questions And Answer Her Queries:

  • It is natural that your daughter may have a lot to ask you once you tell her the details, or may completely act as if it was nothing to discuss further.
  • If your daughter asks you questions, take it as a positive sign and help allay her fears and ease her confusion.
  • If your daughter does not ask you anything, try and ask her questions that you feel will help take the discussion further.
  • A few things you should discuss with her include; why she gets her period, what are the symptoms, how she must use a sanitary pad, what if she gets her period in school. You might have to help her prepare for wearing a sanitary pad without making it obvious, what if it stains her clothe. Tell her that all of this is a common occurrence during any menstruation period, especially when it is her first time.

[ Read: Missed Periods In Teens ]

As a mother, you should try and ensure that whatever information your daughter gets, is from you so that it is accurate and she feels comfortable discussing it with you further.

Hope you liked our post on how to talk to your daughter about her first period. When did you have the menstruation talk with your daughter? What tips will you share with other moms here?

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