The RIE Approach - Is It Right For Your Family?

The RIE Approach

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Have you wondered about the various ways of parenting across the world? Do you want to know of some positive changes you can bring about in your parenting style? Have you ever heard about the term ‘RIE Parenting’? Have you ever wondered whether it is just another parenting fad or whether it has some merits?

Read our post and learn all about RIE Parenting, and why so many parents across the world feel it works great for them and their children.

What Is RIE Parenting?

The concept of RIE Parenting began in 1973, in the United States of America. Infant development expert Magda Gerber began the RIE Parenting concept. ‘RIE’ stands for Resources for Infant Educators. It is a non-profit organization that has its headquarters in Los Angeles in US. The term RIE is an umbrella term, which means a way of parenting where the infants and babies are given more respect and independence in the way you raise them.

Imagine a situation where your baby is crying, and you reach out to help so

othe her. Once you check your baby, you may find out that the reason she is crying is due to a wet nappy. You immediately take out a fresh nappy and lay him down to change it. Your baby is happy and changed, and you have done a great job as a parent.

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If you were to look at the above situation from the point of view of RIE Parenting, the scenario would be very different. If, as a parent, you follow RIE, you will first talk to your baby about what is going to happen. Instead of just going through the motions, you will help her understand why you are about to do what you will do. So, even as you pick up the diaper, you will tell her that you are now going to change her diaper, as she is wet and needs a change. Once you have changed her diaper, you will tell her that now you have changed her diaper, and she is fine again.

Some parents are confused that the RIE Parenting technique requires you to treat her as an adult. The idea behind RIE Parenting is not to treat her as an adult. All babies should be treated like babies, and that is what the philosophy of RIE Parenting promotes as well. However, RIE Parenting does lay emphasis on the fact that, as a parent, you should also include respect in the way you treat your baby. Just because she is small and cannot revert to you, or has to listen to you, you shouldn’t treat her without respect or consideration.

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What Is The RIE Approach Of Parenting?

According to the RIE approach of Parenting, respect is one of the strongest and key features you should exhibit in your interactions with your baby. As a parent, you will not only have to feel respectful towards your baby, but you will also have to show the respect in the way you behave. You will have to treat even your youngest baby as a unique individual and not like an object or a tiny being who does not have a say in things.

What Is The Goal Of The RIE Approach Of Parenting?

The RIE approach of Parenting has a very clear goal behind its way of interacting with your baby – to create an authentic child. According to RIE Parenting, an authentic child is a child who will be secure, will feel competent and will have a unique sense of independence. The RIE approach of Parenting says that the building blocks of creating an authentic child start from the time your child is a baby or even an infant. When you start treating her in an authentic way and give her importance, it will help your baby feel more loved and appreciated. The way you speak to her, the way you look at her and involve her in various everyday activities can shape the way your baby will grow up. It can have a lasting impression on her entire personality.

Here are a few key goals that the RIE approach of Parenting believes in:

1. As A Parent, You Have To Trust Your Infant’s Competence:

If you follow RIE Parenting, there are certain qualities that you have to believe your infant is capable of.

  • You should know that your infant or baby can be an initiator. It means that your infant or baby can initiate simple things that are crucial to growing up. It also means that your baby is curious by birth and will want to explore new things as a part of growing up.
  • When you raise your baby as per the RIE approach of Parenting, you provide your baby only the basic help and guidance. You put your trust in your baby’s intelligence and allow your baby to make use of basic skills to move ahead.

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