10 Parenting Tips To Handle A Highly Sensitive Child

Highly Sensitive Child

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Is your child always on the brink of tears? Does your child suddenly go all quiet, or shy away from people and situations? Do you feel your child’s reactions are a little too emotional? You must be thinking how to parent a sensitive child.

If you feel your parenting skills are demanding extreme reactions from your child, maybe it’s time to do a reality check. Read on to know if your child is highly sensitive and what you need to do to handle him with care.Parenting the highly sensitive child has to be with a lot of care.

What Are The Traits Of A Highly Sensitive Child?

A highly sensitive child, as the name suggests, is more susceptible to the people and situations around him. Here are a few traits you may notice in your child if he is highly sensitive: [1]

1. Will React Emotionally To Almost Everything:

Your highly sensitive child will react with a lot of emotions to almost everything. It could mean a simple visit to a pet store could leave him feeling miserable for the

animals there. It could mean a simple stern look from you could reduce your child to tears. Being highly sensitive also makes your child more in tune with how others feelings. Your child may feel concern towards someone, to an extent where he wants to go out of his way and help. He may worry too much about others and want to make things right.

2. Will Feel More:

If your child is highly sensitive, he will delve deeper into things than most other children his age. For your child, a simple event like failure to achieve a particular target will not be just that. Your child will delve deep to find out its cause, why he did not realize the mistake in time, what could he have done about it and why didn’t he do it. In severe cases, your child may brood too much, and suffer from stress and anxiety.

3. Everything Is Personal:

For your child, being highly emotional means that everything that happens is personal. Your child will react to everything in a way where he feels whatever others say is applicable to him only.

[ Read: How To Deal With An Emotional Child ]

4. Will Find It Difficult To Choose:

A common trait among highly sensitive children is the difficulty in taking a decision. Your child will look into various details and subtleties, making it difficult for him to select. For instance, if asked to choose a flavor of ice cream, your child will take much longer to decide which flavor he should have. In certain cases, your child may find it difficult to choose if he has to make an emotional choice, like something as simple as choosing a partner for a game.

5. Feel Guilty:

Once your child feels he has taken a wrong decision he will feel extremely guilty. He will ponder over why he did so and how it will affect things now. No matter what you say or do, it can be hard to make him feel better during those times.

[ Read: Understanding Child Psychology ]

Parenting The Highly Sensitive Child:

As you probably know already, parenting a highly sensitive child demands care and attention. Follow these tips to handle him tactfully:

1. Acknowledge His Feelings:

Your child does have a high range of emotions running, and you just have to tune in as a parent.

  • Understand your child’s feelings. It is one of the first steps you need to take when you want to adopt the right parenting approach toward your highly sensitive child.
  • Your child may feel emotional all the time, but remember the time when you feel hurt, and someone fails to understand that. Let your child know that you understand what he feels.

2. Don’t Try To Change Him:

You may feel it is not such a great thing to be highly sensitive, but for your child, it is a way of life.

  • As a parent, you may worry that being highly sensitive can hurt your child most of the times. It is perfectly understandable. But you also need to realize that this trait is not something your child can just delete.
  • If you try and force your child to change, it will only make him retract into his shell.
  • He will think you disapprove his behavior, and it will make him feel more guilty and quiet.
  • Accept and love your child the way he is. Make him feel happy and proud, and not feel like a misfit.

3. Reassure Him:

Always tell your child that you love him, no matter what.

  • Use your words and actions to show your child that you love him just the way he is.
  • Your child may sometimes feel he is different from others, and it can be quite a dismal thought for him.

4. Encourage His Positive Traits:

Some children can be rude and single out your child for being highly sensitive.

  • Help your child to overcome these issues by highlighting his virtues.
  • Show him how he can use his skills to his advantage.
  • Tell him that he is a sensitive child and that it is a good thing, because he feels for others. Not everyone can do that.
  • Your child may have an amazing imagination, he may be extremely creative, can be a wonderful listener, may perceive things much better and have a host of skills that not all children have. Help your child to realize these qualities and help him hone them more.

[ Read: Effective Ways To Promote Positive Behavior In Your Children ]