10 Ways To Control Your Anger When Dealing With Kids

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Is your kid getting on your nerves and making it difficult for you to control your anger? Well, parenting is not an easy task and you must keep your anger in check, so that it in no way affects your child’s behavior and personality.

With so many pressures in life, it sometimes gets hectic when your child is constantly nagging and vying for your attention.

However, if you are honest, you cannot deny the fact that you could have handled the situation much better had you been in a state of calm. Unfortunately you might feel righteously entitled to your anger in a fit of rage. You simply cannot understand how your kid can be so ungrateful, irresponsible, selfish and inconsiderate.

10 Ways On How To Control Anger When Dealing With Kids:

You must never lose control while parenting, even though it is easier said than done. Here are some suggestions that can help you stay calm and know how to control anger with kids.

1. Keep reminding yourself that you will stay in control. You

can set limits for yourself. While this is not easy, it will surely make some difference to the way you react.

2. Be ready for your kid to push buttons. Do not get upset if your kid is not doing what you expect her to do. Take it this way – your kid is doing her job and your job is to stay calm and guide her the right way.

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3. Remember you are not responsible for everything that is going on. If you do so, you will be adding up more stress and get angry. All you can do is to take responsibility to help your kid solve her problem. You certainly cannot take the responsibility of making her listen to you; it is her decision after all.

4. Concentrate on how you can deal with her and stand up for yourself.

5. Prepare yourself for the time when you get highly anxious. Ask yourself how you can handle your fussy eater and what you can do when she refuses to eat.

[ Read: How To Discipline Your Child ]

6. Prepare yourself saying ‘no matter how much you try I will not involve myself in any power struggle with you.’ Guide yourself by the way you want to see yourself as a parent and do not get swayed away by the momentary feelings.

7. Think of the things that helped you in the past and how you soothed yourself in the most uncomfortable situations. Maybe walking out of the room helps, so do that. There is no point in reacting to the behaviors of your kid.

8. Take a deep breath and remember the differences between responding and reacting. Respond to her demands thoughtfully and think before you speak.

[ Read: How To Deal With Stubborn Kids ]

9. Keep repeating some slogans in your head when you feel emotions escalating in your mind. Say things like “stop”, “think”, “slow down”, and “breath”. Create mental pictures and work on that. It is a wonderful way of controlling anger with kids.

10. Think how you would want your relation to be with her someday. Think if the present scenario leads to the kind of relationship you visualize after 25 years. This will help you think, if the way you respond to your kid is right. If not, think of the ways you can change it. Keep the goal in your mind and see if your reactions are closer to your goal.

[ Read: How To Deal With Emotional Child ]

Kids do not see any shades of grey. All they realize is their mom and dad is angry. Try and see from the point of view of your kid. She is just a kid and cannot be expected to match up with your behavior.

Again, it is natural for you to lose your control. Think of positive ways to vent out your frustration and anger. Do not hold it inside you and explode in a fit of rage. Keep in mind that your kid learns by imitating you and will react in the same while venting out her anger.

Moms, share any other strategies on how to control anger when dealing with kids.

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