Imagine yourself a child being threatened or yelled at for a simple mistake or two. How would you feel? Ashamed? Unloved? Humiliated? And in constant fear that you would be scolded again in case you make another mistake?
Verbal abuse is one of the most common and also most overlooked forms of abuse on children. Most times it is passed off as a form of “disciplining” or “tough love”. This ignorant perspective can cause children to experience devastating consequences.
Short Term Effects Of Verbal Abuse On Children:
While the damages caused by verbal abuse cannot be seen externally, it leaves behind psychological impact that often makes it difficult for the child to get over. The short term effects are described below:
1. Routine Or Clinical Depression:
Demoralizing or yelling at children can result in negative outcomes.
- The child may develop inferiority complexes and may keep himself aloof from others.
- This condition may become a permanent, that is, clinical one if the a
2. Deteriorating Mental and Physical Performances:
With lower self confidence, the child may exhibit poor mental and physical performances.
- If a parent for instances says, “I know you will win the race”, the child will automatically start assuming that he has won the race and he will have no doubts in his mind, irrespective of what the outcome may be.
- On the other hand, if you told your child “you just don’t have the stamina”, he will get nervous for the poor outcome predicted for him. The child at this point may decide to lose to prove that his parents are right.
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3. Develop Inferiority Complexes:
When a child is yelled at constantly, he starts believing “there must be something wrong with me”.
- He starts developing inferiority complexes and feels his friends to be superior to him.
- Since he has been suggested that is not at par with others, he starts assuming others to be better than him and this in turn makes him abusive as well.
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Long Term Effects Of Verbal Abuse On Children:
Children who have been subjected to constant verbal abuse suffer from permanent health and psychological disorders. Here are discussed some of the behavioral troubles:
1. Health Issues:
Depression leads to “substitution chain”, in which the victim to satisfy his pleasures tend to indulge in overeating or stop eating altogether. This affects his growth and development of bones, muscles and vital organs are also impaired. The child, thus gets weaker and weaker with time.
2. Low Self Confidence:
Qualities of dominance and confidence are vital for a successful professional life and a satisfying personal life for adults. Its absence can result in frustration and depression.
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3. Low Hope In Life:
Victims subjected to constant verbal abuse may fail to develop a positive outlook and show poor self confidence that might cause problems in their later stages of life.
4. Become Addictive:
The drive to accomplish a goal often keeps us away from alcohol or drugs. Again, if you look at the simple fact, the hungry will look for food while the depressed will look for addictive substances to keep themselves away from reality.
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5. Develop Anti-Social Tendencies:
The worst side effect is that abused children often grow up to be damaged adults and abused parents as well. Several studies on criminals’ childhood have established links between verbal abuse and the individual’s criminal history.
So, if you are concerned about the welfare of your child and want him to become a good human being, practice sathvikparenting techniques in order to stop verbally abusing a child and help your child adopt techniques to counter verbal abuse.
Remind them from time to time how much they are loved and how wonderful they are. Your child needs you. So, be a positive parent and stay by his side.
Do share your thoughts on how did you feel after knowing effects of verbally abusing children with us.
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