From a cute little baby to the naughty little toddler, that’s bursting with energy – you have been a spectator of the different changes of your baby over the past few years. Now, he has grown old enough to get into school and start with one of the basics of his development as an individual.
One fine day, you discover that your child lied to you about something – and all hell breaks loose. It may be over a trivial thing, or it may be about something serious. Whatever the case, you may find it unacceptable to find your child lying to you, and feel very hurt and offended. Regardless of what you feel, it is now time to be strong and find out exactly why your kid had to move a step away from honesty.
Why Do Children Lie?
The first step into helping your kid develop positive values such as truth and honesty is to assess the problem at its core. Why exactly did your kid decided to lie instead of telling you the truth?
- Child behavior experts believe that there are a few common reaso
- Your kid is very young, and doesn’t really understand the difference between a truth and a lie. Many preschoolers tend to ‘lie’, which is actually not lying in the first place, it’s basically an innocent fantasy.
- Your kid may be lying to escape the rules set down by you. For instance, he may lie to you about completing his homework so that he could go out and play.
- Your kid may be facing peer pressure at school, and in an order to make himself fit within the crowd, he may brag about different aspects of his life which may not necessarily be true.
- Your kid may lie to you in order to avoid punishment for anything wrong he might have done, or anything that he supposes will get you angry. Many kids lie to prevent themselves from getting into trouble. For e.g., they might have broken a valuable object, which is followed by a lie to cover that up.
- A lot of kids lie to their parents to grab their attention. Again, this is out of pure innocence and to grab the attention of the parent. Occasionally, your kid may also lie to you to avoid hurting your feelings.
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What Should Be Done?
Whatever be the reason, as a parent, it is your responsibility to inculcate the importance of honesty and truth in your child starting from the very beginning.
This will help you establish healthy rules in your kid and will make sure that he gets successful in his future and turns out to be wonderful human being.
10 Tips On How To Help Your Child Stop Lying:
Dealing with a lying child can be tough, but remember, it’s you who has to intervene and try to sort out the issue as a parent. Below is a list of simple tips that could help you encourage honesty and other positive values in your kid and discourage the habit of lying. For better results we have divided the pointers in two segments:
a. Tips for Immediate action.
b. Tips to remember for the long run
So, that you are able to deal with the problem more effectively.
a. Tips For Immediate Action:
1. Stay Calm:
This is one of the basic rules of parenting. No matter what the situation, getting all hyper and tense will only make it worse.
- Stay calm and try to focus on the positive aspects and how to deal with children who lie.
- Go easy on your kid – every child makes mistakes, and no need to be harsh on him for every tiny error that he commits.
- In fact, staying calm in a stressful situation will actually encourage your child to learn and control his emotions.
- Also will make him less likely to get angry and throw temper tantrums.
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2. Don’t Call Your Child A ‘Liar’:
Calling your kid a liar will make the situation worse, if your kid is well within the understanding age and realizes the difference between a lie and the truth.
- It has also been observed that by telling your kid he or she is a liar could actually worsen self esteem and hamper his or her overall growth and progress.
- Making your kid feel ashamed for every single error isn’t going to help.
- As a parent, all you have to do is support and encourage your child to change his ways.
3. Focus On The Solution:
Make it a point to focus on the solution instead of the problem when it comes to helping your kid stick to the truth.
- Don’t lecture – be gentle and explain him why lying isn’t really good.
- Help your child understand how lying is a bad habit, and it could make him a less trustworthy person and put him in the bad light.
- Encourage him to speak out the truth, no matter how scary it may seem.
- A good idea is to take inspiration from some fairy tale stories.
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